大学四年生活中与我们关系最密切的是朝夕相处的室友们。也许你们惺惺相惜，成为了好朋友。可能是气场不和，但总有各种矛盾，不可能在一个房间里在一起。

但是不管怎样，如何和室友相处是我们考虑过的问题。这一期的文章给了我10个小建议，希望你度过4年愉快的宿舍时间~

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you may have grown up living with lots of siblings，Or this may be your first time sharing your living space with some one else . while having a roommama

也许你有很多兄弟姐妹。你们生活在一起，一起长大。这可能是第一次和别人住在同一个房间里。虽然和别人一起生活总是少不了这种麻烦，但这将是你大学生活中非常重要的经历。

follow these ten tips to make sure you and your roommate keep things pleasant and supportive throughout the year(or even years！)。

如果在一起生活的一年，甚至几年，大家都想和睦地互相帮助，可以尝试以下10个秘诀。

1.be clear about your expectations from the beginning

1.“丑话”要在前面说

do you know in advance that you hate it when someone hits the snooze button 1 fifteen times every morning？That you're a neat freak？that you need ten minutes to yourself before talking to any one after you wake up？let your roommate know as soon as you can about your little quirks And preferences . it ' s not fair to expect him or her to pick up on2 them right aww And coon

你事先知道别人每天早上按15号闹铃都不起床吗？你知道自己有洁癖吗？嗯？你知道吗，睡醒10分钟后我才想说话。这种小怪癖和品味都要尽快向室友解释。如果想让别人立即注意到这些细节，那不能不说是一件困难的事。好方法之一是坦率地上告，防患于未然。

[1]SNOOOZE BUTTON闹钟上的延迟按钮，按下这个按钮，闹钟就会停止，但会在短时间内再次响起，用于反复警告闹钟的发生。[2] pick up on注意到了。

2.address problems when they ' re little

2.及时解决小矛盾

is your roommate always forgetting her stuff for the shower，and taking yours？are your clothes being bor-rowed faster than you can wash them？addressing things that bug you while they ' restill little can help your roommate be aware of something she may not otherwise know . and address Le te麻烦的事虽然小，但要及时提醒，否则她还完全意识不到。小事说出来容易解决，积怨难处理。

3.Respect your roommate's stuff

3.不要乱动别人的东西

This may seem simple，but it ' s probably one of the biggest reasons why roommates experience c

onflict. Don’t think he’ll mind if you borrow his cleats for a quick soccer game3? For all you know, you just stepped over an uncrossable line. Don’t borrow, use, or take anything without getting permission first.

这点看似简单，可如果做不到，却是室友间失和的主要原因之一。不过穿他的钉鞋去踢会儿球，他不会在意吧？你可要知道，你已经越过了一条不该逾越的界线。除非事先征得本人同意，否则不要借、用、拿室友的任何个人物品。

[3] quick soccer game 一种小型足球比赛, 参加人数较正规比赛少（如每队五人）。

4. Be mindful of who you bring into your room – and how often

4. 来客不可将人扰

You may love having your study group into your room. But your roommate may not. Be mindful of how often you bring people over. If your roommate studies best in the quiet, and you study best in a group, can you alternate who hits4 the library and who gets the room?

也许你喜欢叫上学习小组的同学来寝室一起学习，可你的室友未必喜欢。注意:不要频繁带人进寝室。如果室友觉得安静氛围最利学习，而你学习时喜欢与人讨论，你们不妨轮流使用寝室，一个人要用寝室，另一个人就去图书馆。

[4] hit 去（某地）。

5. Lock the door and windows

5. 寝室门窗要锁好

This may seem like it has nothing to do with roommate relationships, but how would you feel if your roommate’s laptop got stolen during the ten seconds it took you to run down thehall5? Or vice versa? Locking your door and windows is a critical part of keeping safe on campus.

这点看似跟室友间相处得好与不好没什么关系，可也许就是你去走廊打个转的工夫、也就十秒钟，室友的笔记本电脑就让人偷走了，到那时你作何感想？如果这个丢东西的人换成是你，你又作何感想？在校园生活中，要保障人身财产安全，锁好门窗可是至关重要的一环。

[5] hall 此处同 hallway，走廊、过道。

6. Be friendly, without expecting to be best friends

6. 室友无须变挚友

Don’t go into6 your roommate relationship thinking that you are going to be best friends for the time you’re at school. It may happen, but expecting it sets both of you up for7 trouble. You should be friendly with your roommate but also make sure you have your own social circles.

不必费心费力地想把室友变成大学时期最好的朋友。虽然不是不可能，但期待过高只会给彼此带来困扰。要与室友和睦相处，但也要有自己的社交圈子。

[6] go into 此处指（将时间、精力）用在，用于（某事）。[7] set somebody up for 把某人置于某种境地。

7. Be open to new things

7. 乐于接受新事物

Your roommate may be from someplace you’ve never heard of. They may have a religion or lifestyle that is completely different from your own. Be open to new ideas and experiences, especially as it relates to what your roommate brings into your life. That’s why you went to college in the first place, right?!也许你的室友从一个你闻所未闻的地方而来，你们的宗教信仰和生活方式可能完全不同。要以开放的心态看待新观念、尝试新事物，当这些是因你的室友而接触到的时候，尤应如此。这不正是你上大学的初衷吗？

8. Stay open to change

8. 勇于改变应万变

You should expect to learn and grow and change during your time at school. And the same should happen to your roommate, if all goes well. As the semester progresses, realize things will change for both of you. Be comfortable addressing things that unexpectedly come up, setting new rules, and being flexible to your changing environment.大学期间，你要自我学习、 自我成长、自我改变。如果一切顺利的话，你的室友也应如此。要明白，随着学期向前推进，大家都会有所改变。意料之外的事时有发生，要从容应对。要定新规，随机应变。

9. Address problems when they’re big, too

9. 矛盾升级得处理

You may not have been totally honest8 with tip #2, or you may suddenly find yourself with a roommate who goes wild9 after being shy and quiet the first two months. Either way, if something gets to be a big problem quickly, deal with it as soon as you can.

也许你并没有照着第二条要诀说的那样去做，又或许，你突然发现，头两个月还腼腆文静的室友原来是个暴脾气——无论哪种情况，一旦事情有愈演愈烈的趋势，要尽快处理。

[8] honest 如实的，不作假的。[9] be/go wild 感情强烈的(尤指生气、激动或高兴)。

10. If nothing else, follow the golden rule

10. 黄金法则要记牢

Treat your roommate like you’d like to be treated. No matter what your relationship is at the end of the year, you can take comfort knowing you acted like an adult and treated your roommate with respect.你希望别人怎么对待你，你就怎么对待别人。待学年将尽，无论你们相交深浅，只要你展现出了成年人的气度，给予了室友应有的尊重，那就可以安心了。

By Kelci Lynn Lucier

文/凯尔茜·琳恩·卢西尔

译 / 齐贺

来源：英语世界

来源：英语世界