1、你不能通过更加努力地爱他们来改变不健康的关系。更加努力地爱自己，然后离开。

You can't change an unhealthy relationship by loving them yourself harder instead and walk away.

2、如果你在童年时每次表达一种需求时都觉得自己是一种负担和责任，那么你可能已经形成了一种适应极端独立和难以接受他人的能力。

If you felt like a burden and liability every time you expressed a need in childhood,you may have developed an adaptation of extreme independence and difficulty receiving from others.

3、避免冲突以维持关系的和平反而会点燃你内心的战争。

Avoiding conflict to keep the peace in a relationship ignites a war within yourself instead.

4、你的真理是有效的，因为你经历过它。你不需要为自己解释或辩护来试图让别人理解你。

Your truth is valid simply because you experienced it.you do not need to explain or defend yourself to try to make others understand.

5、 当我们消除那些不是我们要背负的创伤时，我们就会成为我们最想要的生活的振动匹配者。

We become a vibrational match to the life we most want to live when we dissolve the traumas that are not ours to carry.

6、每一个新人进入你的生活，要么是一个循环，要么是成长的向导。注意差别，有意识地进行选择。

Every new person who enters your life is either a cycle repeating or a guide towards grow the difference and choose consciously.

7、如果他们的存在比他们的缺席更让人痛苦，那么是时候离开了。

If their presence is more painful than their absence,it's time to go.

8、放开那些愿意失去你的人。你未来的自己会感谢你的。

Let go of the people who are okay with losing you.your future self will thank you.

9、如果你成长在一个父母在情感上或身体上都无法帮助你的环境。如果真爱也不在你身边，你很可能会被吸引到动力中去。

If you were raised in an environment with an emotionally or physically unavailable ;s highly likely that you will be drawn to dynamics were authentic love is not available to you either.